The Courage to Be Disliked
Adlerian psychology replaces Okinawan cultural wisdom.
Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga's The Courage to Be Disliked presents Adlerian psychology through a Socratic dialogue between a philosopher and a young man. The book argues that happiness is available to everyone right now, if they are willing to stop seeking approval from others and start living according to their own values. Ikigai teaches that purpose comes from the intersection of passion, skill, need, and compensation.
Kishimi and Koga go deeper into the psychological barriers that prevent people from pursuing their purpose in the first place: the fear of judgment, the desire for recognition, and the tendency to blame past experiences for present limitations. Both books draw from Japanese philosophical traditions and share a quiet, contemplative tone. The dialogue format makes complex psychological ideas accessible, and the philosopher's challenges push readers to question their assumptions about what makes life worth living.
For readers who absorbed Ikigai's message about finding purpose and want to understand the internal obstacles that keep them from actually pursuing it, this book addresses the psychological dimension Ikigai leaves largely untouched.






